Internet Online Dating Rules, safety will be mixed in along the journey to finding love;)
Women: Most rules of normal dating still apply, however they have changed with the advent of the internet. [Men scroll down for good tips] These rules are time tested over 4 years of about 40 personal mistakes meeting and dating online.
1: Stick to the matchmaking rules, if you're waiting for an email reply from a guy it likely will happen about as fast as watching grass grow.
Take the initiative first. If you're patiently waiting for Mr. Right to find your profile, you may become the sea captains wife on the widow walk. You want action now not when you're old and gray. Men are lazy plain and simple, it's in the genes. Next they'll email any woman with two eyes, a nose and a mouth without bothering to ask themselves if they have similar values or at least some things in common with a potential partner. If you chose, and seek out Mr. Right the odds improve 10 fold.
2: BE TRUTHFUL. If you're 35, don't say 32. If separated, don't imply you're almost divorced. Honesty is still the best policy even online, lies will catchup with you! This advice goes for pictures, too. Choose a current photo that reflects your current appearance, a full standing up body shot if possible. If you're into just online dating and never intend to actually date off-line, use a hot babe photo by all means :) But not a shot of you five years or 10 pounds lighter. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
3: Don't e-mail a potential mate for months. Typically you should be able to make a choice within approx. 4-5 emails. Internet chatting/email chemistry is no guarantee you'll click in the flesh, this may keep you outta a disaster! Never tell you're most intimate feelings online.
4: Never chat on the phone first.
Pre-date babble is a waste of time! Even an incredible conversation that last hours even if you feel all warm and fuzzy inside afterwards doesn't mean sparks will fly off-line. On the other hand an uncomfortable chat tells you nothing either, which awkward talking with a stranger often is. You might foul-up a good match. Shoot from e-mail to a short date.
5: Coffee first, no meals on date #1! If you hit it off, make plans for the real deal but in a well lit busy part of town and restaurant [NO BARS] most guys feel driven to pay too, the male ego and a free meal, don't be tempted pay for your own plus order something besides the salad, keep it real. If the meeting has no sparkle, it will only cost you a few minutes. Don't make friends and promise to stay in touch, times a wasting! Either it feels right or doesn't.
6: Arrive early, bring a book or something and makeup an exit excuse after 30 mins. or so. The advantages: You will know him on sight? Who should pay? How do you politely escape? You are in control by being prepared. Show up 10-15 minutes early, buy your coffee, then relax with your book in a visible spot. You're settled in instead of stand around feeling silly. When he shows, shake hands, then he can order his drink. Exit excuses.
Make them sound real. Maybe take your cell and have a friend call approx. 30-1 hour after the date start time. Have them call, then say my friend is having a melt down gotta run.
7: Change up your search habits.
Possibly age, geo target, height etc. lighten up your requirements on occasion. You never know when that magical man might popup. In general, boundaries are good; otherwise, you could spend massive amounts of time just looking when you could be browsing for shoes or shopping for that sexy dress. That cute, funny, sexy guy with a great job may only be a couple years younger, or a few more miles away.
8: Keep your radar settings on low.
You might go on many dates just to find a hint of hope, it can sap your energy. If you aim a bit lower, you might just end up ecstatically pleased.
Internet Dating Rules For Men
Why more rules for men than women? A man requires more help, that's why!
1: Don't send bland/generic e-mails.
You're not reading from a scripted sales letter. Don't sent email to 50 women asking the same tired old questions, like "Wow you're HOT I think we have lots in common." Only email women when you can ask REAL QUESTIONS that may interest them. For example: "Hi, I dig what you said about loving the outdoors, me too." Should state; what's your favorite outdoor activities? I noticed your profile mentioned camping. Do you also like fishing? Plus, it's crucial to ask questions to keep the conversation going. For instance: "So do you have any camping trips planned? What other types of vacations do you like?"
2: Don't boost.
Don't say, "I recently bought a hot new car and I've been getting really rich investing in the stock market," BIG Egos are not attractive!
3: Reveal as much as you can in your profile.
Offer fun info not the bah, bah stuff, "Like I'm a single white male, 5'9'', 175 pounds, black hair, green eyes. I live in Miami. I'm an computer salesman that sales computer systems. Well, that's all I can think of for now." What do you like to do for fun? What qualities are important to you in a man? You get the idea.
4: Are you looking for a woman who likes to laugh or likes to have fun? Forget it! Everyone likes to laugh, and have fun? Also, delete all references to "walks on the beach" "Going to Movies" Etc. Keep things lively, but be honest!
5: Don't specify eye color, a height limit or shape sizes that you desire in a woman.
You're not shopping for a new TV. For once zoom in on a woman's PERSONALITY and INTERESTS rather than her breast size.
6: Do your homework before a date.
Before a date, take a few minutes to gander at the profile of the woman you're meeting. Commit a few details to memory. [I know it's tough guys] "So you're practicing law, how do you like it so far?" is going to fly farther than, "So, like, wait are you a nurse? Sorry, wait, now I remember . . . a lawyer!"
7: Ask questions.
Nothing is more attractive to a woman than inquisitiveness. Don't babble about yourself, usually a big turn off for most women; Pretend you're a detective and your solving a big case about your date to communicate with your partner later. Don't talk about yourself to much, women like to be asked questions!
8: Don't talk about your other Internet dates.
Don't spend your precious moments telling horror stories about other online dates. Resist the temptation! Concentrate primarily on you and the woman you're dating! (see #5 and #6).
9: Never say "I'll call you" if you don't intend to.
In the online dating universe, there decoder words for "I'm not interested" like "Well, it was nice to meet you!" or "See you online again soon!" Use these exit words when you don't want to meet a woman again. Don't give a woman false hope? If you'd like a second date and she doesn't offer her number, e-mail right away and ask for it. Don't ask for her number right on the spot ; she may feel compelled to give it to you out of a sense of politeness even though she's not interested, or even a wrong number;(
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